Health Benefits of Accepting Yourself 

Accepting yourself is good for you, mentally and physically. Unconditional self acceptance may not be easy or seem possible, but once you experience its benefits, you will want more of it. This inner state of being okay with who you are is essential for mental well-being. This is a far cry from most of us feel when we look in the mirror or think back over our lives.

What is Unconditional Self Acceptance?

Accepting yourself is about being at peace with all aspects of your being. It is a sense you have deep within that your core self is perfect. You may call this your soul or inner being. It is not the ego self, but the real you underneath the judgments and stories you believe about who and what you are.

Unconditional self acceptance is not about being egotistical or denying truth. It is not an excuse for making poor decisions and bad behavior. Just the opposite. From a position of acceptance you can be honest with yourself and make better personal decisions.

Accepting yourself offers a soft place for assessing aspects of your life without being unduly hard on yourself. It offers no energy for self-loathing and harsh judgments. What is, is. What was, was. You are at peace regardless of perceived flaws and short-comings because your SELF is not those things.

When you accept yourself, you make decisions about change and personal transformation, or not, authentically instead of primarily from ego. As a bonus, desired transformation springing from your inner being can be a breeze compared to trying to achieve something aligned with a false image. It is the difference between being freed of a heavy weight and forcing yourself to be and do. 

Consider this...

The opening setup statement of the Emotional Freedom Technique acknowledges your true  nature as one free of judgment. The words act as a reminder, consciously and unconsciously, of a deep, untainted relationship with our spirit, whether they feel true to the personality or not. 

Those words are,"Even though I have this problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself."

Extending love, grace and forgiveness to yourself feels good. And another bonus, when you genuinely accept your SELF, warts and all, you are likely to extend those gifts to others. 

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Challenges of Accepting Yourself

Even though challenges with unconditional self acceptance are common, some people can't even speak the words.

Why is this?

Your self concept begins forming at birth and possibly earlier. Along with inherited genetic make up, observations about your world and what you were told shaped your beliefs. They made you who you are right down to the cellular level. Some of us have even been taught that accepting yourself is egotistical and sinful!

Unfortunately, because of the wiring of the human brain, negative messages carry more weight than positive ones. We tend to discredit the good and focus on the bad. The media capitalizes on this. Advertisers spend billions convincing us we aren't good enough unless you are like this or have that. We compare our bodies with unrealistic retouched images and our material possessions with the rich and famous. We compare our spiritual lives with religious figures and our intelligence with the class genius. 

When you 'buy what they are selling', you feel dissatisfied. You judge and reject yourself in whole or in part.  At least to some extent you  believe, "I'm not (important, smart, good looking, talented, rich) enough" to be worthy of love and acceptance.

For better or worse our make up combined with those messages, create our sense of self-esteem, which is confused with innate value. Fortunately, with education comes power. You can take back control of your mind.

Health and Accepting Yourself

Low self worth creates an undercurrent of stress that makes physical and mental healing difficult. There is a scientific reason for this. Negativity is discouraging and stressful. You can be sure the message makes its way to your cells. The chemical changes created by stress reduce cell repairing DHEA levels and elevate cortisol.

Mental and spiritual well-being also suffer. Lack of love and freedom to honor your core being along with a barrage of judgment cause untold strain and unhappiness. All this chronic distress is the antithesis of wellness.

You really gain nothing positive when you are hard on yourself, except perhaps a temporary boost of motivation. Even this is not of the lasting nurturing kind that fosters personal transformation and health. 

After all, why should your mind and body take care of someone you reject?

On the contrary, freeing yourself from the grips of judgment is a big relief. Forgiveness and release are powerful healers of mind, body and spirit. spirit. Even in difficult situations, unconditional self acceptance lets you relax and creatively see solutions.

Sometimes low self worth shows up in sneakier ways.

For example, you might say, "I'm fighting depression (or cancer)". Does that feel like accepting yourself? Does it feel peaceful or stressful? This can get tricky. A statement like this may feel positive at times, perhaps when your body is literally fighting an invading virus. At other times it zaps your energy. Tune in and check how those words feel for you.

On the other hand, some conditions such as arthritis and depression are created internally. To fight them means to fight yourself. Try an affirmation like this instead, "I'm thankful for what this illness is teaching me about myself and I'm cooperating with my mind and body to get well."

Instead of saying, "I hate my fat thighs," genuinely say "I appreciate that my legs let me walk and go where I want, even though I've put extra weight on them. What wonderful legs they are."

Notice how different the statements sound and feel. Which statements inspire you to love yourself and take positive steps to wellness? Even if your ego doesn't believe it, can you feel the soothing balm of those words in your soul?

Accepting yourself with an illness or disability may feel counter-intuitive.

I know from experience how important unconditional self acceptance is at these times. For years I struggled with limitations and pain from a ruptured disk. Sometimes still, just getting through the work day is difficult. When I resented the lingering effects of this condition, I became more and more depressed and inactive. Once I decided to make peace with my body and the situation, the tension in my mind and body eased. Almost miraculously without making many changes, the discomfort lessened and my quality of life improved. Set-backs and flare ups serve to remind me that I need to listen to my body and accept what is. When I do, all is well.

Even if you know you are responsible for creating poor health, let it go. Forgive yourself, make peace with what is, and love yourself to a healthier state of being.

Accepting yourself fosters spiritual well-being and opens you to your true nature. It frees up energy for healing and puts you in tune with inner guidance and intuition. 

When you love and accept yourself unconditionally, you are naturally motivated to take good care of yourself. Your decisions and goals will align with what is in your best interest. And it certainly feels better than beating yourself up with negativity.

Continue to How to accept yourself.


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