Healing for damaged emotions and negative thinking patterns has come to the forefront of holistic healing, thanks to a growing awareness that carrying emotional baggage negatively impacts body mind health and interferes with manifesting your desires.
Gone are the days of being told to suck up your emotional wounds. Now we know better and we want better. A plethora of techniques have been developed to help you rid yourself of limiting beliefs, relieve the charge of painful emotional memories, and negative thinking.
Before diving into the hows of healing for damaged emotions, take a look at the following pages to familiarize yourself with what emotions are and how you experience them.
Types of Emotions and Feelings
What are Emotions
Inner Talk - The Power of Thoughts
Even though we use language such as 'damaged emotions' and 'emotional wounds', emotions are just energy that cannot be damaged.
When associated sights, sounds, smells and other reminders trigger these memories, you relive them in your imagination, complete with accompanying emotions and feelings. We all experience this. You find a photo of a lost loved one and find yourself reminiscing and feeling pangs of loss and sadness. Perhaps a song of betrayal and revenge on the radio stirs up feelings of anger about a betrayal you experienced. If you were the betrayer, that same song may stir up feelings of guilt and remorse.
That emotions are energy is good news. Gary Craig, creator of the very popular Emotional Freedom Technique teaches that "all negative emotions are caused by a disruption in the body's energy system." When your perspectives shift and the energy is freed up, it flows smoothly. The mental and physical tension related to that disruption is relieved and you feel better. You may not forget, but the charge is gone.
Healing for damaged emotions can happen quickly and spontaneously. Often it takes time, so be persistent. Sometimes you think you are over an incident, only to discover new aspects making themselves known. Sometimes emotional healing is like peeling an onion. As one layer comes off, another exposes itself for healing.
Before you begin dumping your emotional garbage, you may find it most beneficial to pave the way by giving them voice, hearing them from your heart, and learning from them. Your thoughts, however painful and unpleasant, are there for a reason. Be kind and patient with yourself.
Reminder: Please consult your medical provider before doing this or any healing for damaged emotions process if you have a diagnosed mental condition or have suffered severe emotional trauma. Take full responsibility for your well-being. If you find yourself reacting strongly or negatively, please stop immediately and seek professional assistance.
These first two steps will already begin to shift your emotional energy to a more positive vibration.
Step One - Become fully aware of what you are feeling.
You can only heal what you acknowledge. Awareness is key to healing thoughts and damaged emotions. On a scale of 1-10, how badly are your feelings hurt? How intense are the emotions? How would you label what you are feeling - is it anger, hurt, betrayal, loss? All of the above?
You goal here is to just notice or witness without resistance or judgment.
Do not worry that acknowledging how you feel will attract negativity to you. Ignoring and suppressing damaged emotions only gives more energy to them. Looking at your feelings honestly, shifting your beliefs, and disarming the triggers does allow you to shift to more positive thoughts for real.
Step Two - Feel the emotion and the accompanying physical sensations.
In order to heal, you have to fee the energy, or sensations in your body. They cannot harm you. Locate where the feeling is most intense and witness the sensation with loving awareness for thirty seconds to a minute.
Be with the feeling without trying to do anything to it or analyzing it. Note any beliefs, emotions and thinking patterns that show up, whether true or not, then return your attention to the sensation.
Step Three - Explore and give voice to what triggered the emotion.
What emotional memories, beliefs or feelings came up in step two? If you started the process with an event in mind that's fine, too. If you don't know, take a guess. You will probably be right on, and if not, that memory may allow you to open the door to the core event later on. If there are several related events, choose the earliest one. An event with an intensity of five to seven is a good one to learn the process with.
Be a detective. Some memories are just a thought away. Others are buried so deeply that you forgot they ever happened. Still they are there triggering painful emotions you do not understand.
Once you have identified a trigger, give your feelings a voice. Cuss and yell if you want to. Do not censor your words. Let it out until you feel complete. Take all the time you need. If you prefer to write, do so, but do not keep this paper. Burning it at the end of your healing process feels cleansing and freeing.
Step Four - What did you learn and how did/does it affect your life?
This step is optional, but can help you gain great insights about yourself. Learning how holding onto emotional baggage has helped you, can be healing.
For example, At ten years old, I became afraid of speaking in front of people thanks to months of cruel teasing in my new school. That was a new, painful, scary experience for me. This fear, although much improved, is still with me.
One way it helped me is that I learned to protect myself emotionally by shutting down at will. Although this defense sometimes inhibits me when I want to speak up, it has saved me untold grief when speaking up would have made a situation worse. Because I still have difficulty speaking up with ease, it has led me to continue exploring and healing other ways I was emotionally abused, and to raise my awareness when I cross the line. I am learning to forgive, see other perspectives, feel compassion even when it is not 'deserved', to heal strained relationships, and when to walk away and stay away. I learned to write as a way of expressing myself and to facilitate healing for damaged emotions for myself and others. For better or worse, that event played a role in shaping who I am today.
Step Five - Release the negative or damaged emotions and shift to a better feeling thought.
Even though you can see how charged emotional memories shaped you and helped you adapt as a child, chances are they are limiting you as an adult today. Most likely, you will be healthier, happier and more empowered without them. There are many effective healing for damaged emotions techniques.
Sometimes, just acknowledging your thoughts and relaxing into the emotion, or fully expressing it, as shown in the above steps, is all you need to do. Other times, healing for damaged emotions requires persistence, help from a professional and/or the aid of releasing techniques. Healing for damaged emotions techniques can help you make short work of even long-standing emotional baggage and the limiting beliefs that are often behind them.